Hi Everyone,
Today is Part 2 of Breaking Down Your Barriers to Intimacy- The Feelings Barrier.
How could feelings be a Barrier to Intimacy, you might ask? I thought feelings were intimacy – you might say to yourself. Well, sharing feelings is very much an aspect of intimacy, but when the feelings you are experiencing within a relationship are toxic, then you have a serious barrier.
Toxic feelings affect your personality; the way you engage with others in the world; your self confidence, your mood, your ability to function in an empowered way and feel fulfilled in your life.
Emotion: E- motion, is energy in motion. Healthy emotions are an energy that moves through you in response to your mood, circumstances or relationship with self and others. They act as self regulating signals of pleasure or pain and inform you of what brings you joy and what causes you discomfort. For example, healthy shame helps you become aware of thoughtless, inferior or unloving behaviour and helps you improve for the next time. “Oh, I yelled at my son and he looked terrified, I feel awful about that, I don’t want to traumatise him, so I’ll find another way to discipline him.” Healthy shame.
Toxic emotions, are where those very same feelings such as fear, pain, shame, guilt, anger, grief, loneliness (and even joy) are not moving through you because they’re denied or repressed for various reasons. You might think “out of sight, out of mind” but if you haven’t actually processed those feelings, or released them in some way, then rather than moving through you, they are getting internalised in your cellular memory; becoming stored in your cells, so to speak, and playing a role in shaping your self story- your identity. “ Gee he’s an anxious guy”; or “Wow she’s an angry woman”.
Read my blog to find out more about how unresolved feelings prevent you from having true love in your life and what to do to release these toxic emotions and restore emotional balance to your life.
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