Hi Everyone,
I’ve been posting, blogging and podcasting about the traits of the Conscious Relationship, but what about the Unconscious Relationship?
Surely to know one we need to know the other, right? Don’t be afraid to look at what is not working and why, even if it means that you are the one behaving unconsciously here. It is far more important to pursue something wonderful than it is to avoid the pain of admitting that where you are at, is disappointing. Loving consciously is better than loving in Denial.
What traits or behaviours are characteristic of an Unconscious Relationship?
- Neglect to see each other as mirrors for one another. Instead of looking at the other person’s defects and asking “where does that defect live in me?”, you zero in on the faults in each other and become disillusioned, disappointed, disenchanted and the conflict and power struggles mount.
- You experience a lack of acceptance of each other’s humanness. As a deep self acceptance is missing in your relationship with yourself, this lack is mirrored and therefore missing in your relationship with each other. So, instead of acceptance of each other, you might find tolerance (the poor cousin to acceptance) or intolerance and demands for change.
- Instead of supporting one another to heal the shadow self, support comes in the form of rescue behaviour, such as caretaking, control or unsolicited advice giving.
- The relationship lacks a commitment to mutual soul growth. The struggle is not an evolutionary one designed for your mutual soul growth – but rather a struggle for power.
In a Conscious Relationship, you and your partner move towards the goal of wholeness by fostering each other’s psycho-spiritual growth. This mutual process is driven by the soul and supported by a Divine Harmony. Don’t you love that line?
Please read my latest Blog post and reflect on your own relationship history. Learn to identify traits and behaviours in yourself that help you determine if you are in an Unconscious Relationship and whether you are doing what’s required to make that relationship conscious. Read my Blog here.
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