Are you struggling to communicate effectively with your partner? Do you feel like your relationship is stuck in a rut? Are you experiencing conflicts or trust issues that you can’t seem to resolve on your own? If so, you’re not alone – many couples face challenges like these at some point in their relationships.
But the good news is that you don’t have to go through it alone. With my relationship coaching and counselling services, you can get the support, guidance, and tools you need to build a stronger, healthier, and more fulfilling relationship.
I specialise in helping couples of all ages and backgrounds to:
- Improve communication and conflict resolution skills
- Build trust and intimacy
- Navigate major life transitions (such as marriage, parenting, or career changes)
- Overcome infidelity and other relationship crises
- Heal from past traumas or emotional wounds that may be impacting your current relationship
Whether you’re in a committed relationship, married, or estranged, my coaching and counselling services are tailored to meet your unique needs and goals. I use a variety of evidence-based approaches, including cognitive-behavioral therapy, emotion-focused therapy, and solution-focused therapy, to help you achieve the results you want.
My evidence-based coaching and counselling services are designed to help couples of all ages and backgrounds improve communication, increase intimacy, resolve conflicts, and navigate major life transitions, such as divorce. Whether you’re struggling with trust issues, recovering from infidelity, or simply looking to deepen your connection with your partner, I’m here to help.
My sessions with you are non-judgmental, supportive, and focused on helping you create the relationship you truly deserve.
If you’re ready to take the first step towards a happier, more fulfilling relationship, I invite you to schedule a free consultation today. Let’s work together to help you create the relationship you truly deserve.
Barriers to Authentic Intimacy
Barriers to authentic intimacy include false fixed beliefs, negative emotions like toxic shame and blocking behaviours, otherwise known as defence mechanisms.
False fixed beliefs (aka ‘the lies we tell ourselves’)
The most common false fixed belief is that you are inadequate or unworthy of receiving true love. This kind of thinking represents displaced, unresolved trauma.
The second most common belief is that you’re unsafe; that you will be trapped, controlled or suffocated, that you won’t be able to maintain your sense of self.
The third is that there is no such thing as real love, that you’ll never be fulfilled, so why bother.
Negative emotions: in particular, toxic shame
Healthy shame is an emotion that moves through you when you behave inappropriately. It ensures your behaviour is not thoughtless, inferior or unloving.
Toxic shame, on the other hand, does not move through you. Rather, it is internalised in your cellular memory and becomes part of your self-story. Toxic shame can come from your past experiences or it can be passed on from your mother, father or previous generations. This is known as ‘carried toxic shame’. Toxic shame creates the need for behaviours that block authentic intimacy.
Blocking behaviours (or defence mechanisms)
Defence mechanisms are designed to mask your shame and protect you from perceived threat. They include things like:
- Hiding, deflecting, avoiding, withholding and minimising.
- Over-giving, care-taking, martyrdom, catastrophising and self-pity.
- Over-intellectualising, blame, seduction, projection and addictions.
Moving Towards a Conscious Relationship
To find true love you need to overcome your barriers and heal shame. You need to identify:
- your core false fixed belief and where it came from.
- what you are ashamed of that might be preventing you from attracting or wanting a profound authentic intimacy.
- the blocking behaviours in which you engage.
From there, you can begin the process of examining your obstacles to true love, dismantling them, and finally achieving the life of connection and intimacy you truly deserve.
Are your ready to find true love?
Our work will help you build healthy partnerships, friendships, and intimacy, as you progress on your journey to wholeness.